Effective communication is the key to a successful marriage or partnership. I have completed Level 3 Training in Gottman Method Couples Therapy and will be using this treatment model in my work with you and your partner. Using this type of treatment is a much more intensive way of working with couples. This is longer than the therapeutic hour (50 minutes) and it is not considered short term therapy. Therefore I will not be using your insurance or EAP benefits. Whether we are doing pre-marital or post-marital (or relationships in general), for two people in session together, there is a lot of work to do. Next I will outline the different stages of the marital relationship and you can look at this in a somewhat similar way to moving in (the same principals apply for pre-marital) and cohabitation (same principals for post-marital). No matter where you are at in the relationship process, I look forward to working with you. Please give me a call if you have any questions.
By failing to prepare, you are preparing to fail. Benjamin Franklin
Getting married is an investment that begins with love and respect. Before you say I Do it is important to do pre-marital counseling. Here we can begin to work on communication skills and how to deal with conflict. We will also look at eliminating the "four horseman," (see video below). Marriage should be a journey that two people take together as mature adults that will grow into an experienced, healthy and happy partnership. Your investment for a lifetime together will grant you much greater rewards if you prepare to succeed. Did you know the average cost of a wedding dress that you will wear one day cost $1500+? My cost for a person you are planning to spend the rest of your life with is $1200 for 10 sessions ($100 off if you pay for them in advance).
Being married is hard work but if there is trust and commitment there will be more success in coming in at the start of your concerns to help get you on the right track again. If you weren't able to do pre-marital therapy, post-marital therapy is still an option to learn more effective communication techniques and how to manage conflict. It is best not to wait until you are feeling as if you are falling out of love. The cost of an attorney is approximately $300/hour, my cost is $120/hour and if you pay for 10 sessions in advance I will give you a $100 discount. A marriage tune-up will keep your partnership in shape by giving you the skills to promote a more successful outcome.
Affairs: If you have, there will be a lot of cleaning up to do to deal with the aftermath of the affair. Marriage 1 has ended and now you are entering Marriage 2. If this is what you are committed to it takes two to bring it back together. If you have engaged in an extra-marital affair it must be over with in order for therapy to have some success.
*There needs to be a level of self-awareness for couples counseling to work. Both parties must have an ability to take responsibility for their part in causing the conflict in the relationship.
**Note for couples considering working with my practice: I do not work with couples in a domestic violence relationship (i.e. physical and sexual abuse), or when one or both partners are addicts (you will need to do individual counseling first).
Once we have spoken on the phone and a time and day is set the fees for couples sessions are $120/hour and this is paid for with cash, check or (charge through Paypal). This must be paid by the beginning of each session as it is important that this does not take away from your time with me. Below is a button for Paypal usage with credit cards. Please note there are no refunds. Some HSA/FSA accounts can be used on Paypal, if not I can give you a receipt to be reimbursed.
**Special - Pay 10 sessions in advance and get a $100 discount. See button below.
Now that we have set up an appointment please review this short video before coming in to your first session. It is a hint of what you will be working on in my sessions.
and here is an article "Rescuing Your Relationship From the Four Horseman," written by a fellow clinician that I believe elaborates on this video just a little bit further.
As an adjunct to therapy, I often recommend the following links to my couples. At the same time, therapy is not always something couples can fit into their schedules. Also, many times one partner won't go. Here are some alternative ideas to suggest to your significant other:
New! The Chicago Relationship Center This is a two day Gottman workshop called "The Art and Science of Love." Make it a way to renew, recharge, and refurbish your home life.
Alternate Locations If you can't do the Chicago area or would like to visit another location, this link will show you alternate locations for the same workshop above. Dr's. John and Julie Gottman are the facilitators at the Seattle location.
New! Gottman Couples Retreat Board Game This is something to do together on a date night and looks like a lot of fun!
Gott Sex - For help in improving your sex life. This workshop can be done in your own time through online or videos that are provided. Learn how to make your sex life more rich and fulfilling for $99.00
7 Principles for Making your Marriage Work -For $35.00, you and your partner can gain insight on how to make your relationship work. This includes the book and two workbooks that you and your partner can take the time to read and practice with many exciting exercises. A great book!
Art & Science of Love Home DVD Workshop Take the workshop at home, together, if you are unable to fly or drive to one of the nearest locations to Ohio.
Dr. Gary Chapman:
5 Love Languages This is a top pick with my couples and the link will take you to the DVD which is $10 or you can buy the book. I recommend the DVD so you can watch it together and talk about which one is your primary love language. It is fun and then afterwards click here to take the test and find out for sure which one you are. Note: I am told that you can find this through the Columbus Public Library on Digital Format.
Infidelity (Client Picks)
Coping with Infidelity This is an article on the Marriage Builders website.
Surviving the Affair This is a book that addresses both the cheater and the one who was cheated on.
Women's Infidelity This website is educational and informative and addresses women having an affair. This should be read by both the partner and the woman. There is also a companion book.